I may have to stop reading these Zen Habits postings. It is definitely not the purpose to make me wonder if its even worth it to try and stay in my relationship, but that seems to be the end result. I am afraid that my dh will continue and increase his negative attitudes about everything and I just dont know if I want to live with it forever. It is a reasonable expectation, too, since he has been headed down this road for the past 30 years, but it has only started becoming unbearable since he retired. Before, at least some of it was directed at OTHER people, not just at me.
And just look at his mother. Meanness begets more meanness, and making other people feel awful seems to become an end in itself. Can I cope with that? Do I even want to?