From: Zen Habits <firstname.lastname@example.org>
Date: Tue, May 25, 2010 at 6:09 PM
Subject: zen habits: Slow Down and Enjoy Relationships
Posted: 25 May 2010 05:18 PM PDT
Editor's note: This is a guest post from Corey Allan of Simple Marriage.
The world is seemingly moving at a faster pace. Everywhere you turn, the pace is quick. Deadlines are moved up, workload is increased, kid's schedules are packed, to-do lists are long, housework never ends – it's chaos.
At least it feels this way.
Has the world really sped up? Are there more things happening today than 50 years ago? No, and no.
Some things around us may involve more pressure and feel like it's moving faster, but many times it only feels this way. Thanks to the Internet and cable we hear about everything that happens, immediately.
Our interconnectedness through technology has helped create the illusion of a faster paced world. It's also created the illusion of less loneliness and isolation – but there's nothing that can replace real life connections with other people. Physical contact and interaction is vital.
This loss of contact and the perceived pace of the world produces a feeling of chronic anxiousness and a decrease in the ability to find pleasure in some of the simple things.
Honestly, when was the last time you stopped and took in the smell of fresh baked bread? Or colored with crayons? Or walked barefoot in the grass? Or took a few minutes to just breathe?
No where is the impact of our pace felt more than in marriage and family. It's extremely difficult to move hurriedly through your day and then slow down enough to enjoy your family or your spouse in the evening.
Some of the reasons marriage and family relationships go through sour patches is the squeezing they get from our schedules, disconnection, and pace. It's easy to get caught up in other things and have the immediate outweigh the important.
To reverse this, here's a few ideas to try:
Leave the office.
Turn off all electronic gadgets.
Be 100% present.
Take a walk.
Prepare for your day.
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